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Coaches guide to conversations

Learn how to approach difficult conversations with a guide from Mind

Coaches guide to conversations

Having a good conversation and regular one-to-ones with your players is key to developing a good relationship, improving team building and also allows time for any other general chit-chat. Whether you're having a scheduled one-to-one, or noticed that someone in your team may be experiencing something, always ask how they are and take an interest. It helps create an environment that is a safe and encourages honest and open two-way dialogue.

With any one-to-one, and especially if you’ve noticed that someone in your team has been struggling recently, whether it's because of a physical or an emotional health problem, there are some things you need to consider first:

  • Offer a private, confidential space – turn off phones and ensure you’re not disturbed in your environment

  • Ask open-ended questions instead of yes and no answers, and let the player speak without being interrupted

  • Avoid making judgement – let the player present their point of view and experience without giving your opinion

  • Practice listening actively – maintain eye contact, speak calmly and concisely, giving silence where needed

  • Display empathy and understanding – let the person know they have been heard by repeating strong emotional cues

  • Be patient – focus on the individual not the problem, you aren’t there to solve their difficulties

  • Avoid answering questions about yourself and your own experience, you’re there for them.

Good questions to ask

  • How are you doing at the moment?

  • You seem a bit… would you like to talk about it?

  • I’ve noticed you’re arriving late recently and I wondered if you’re okay?

  • I’ve noticed your work rate has been lower than usual, is there anything I can do?

  • What would you like to happen?

  • What support do you think would be helpful?

  • Have you looked for support?

  • Would you like to sit together and talk about what support is available?

Questions and comments to avoid

  • We need to talk about what’s going on with you

  • You’re clearly struggling, tell me what’s wrong

  • Why can’t you get your act together?

  • What do you want me to do about it?

  • Your performance is unacceptable, what’s going on?

  • Others are managing, why can’t you?

  • Who is going to take on the role if you can’t handle it?

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